[Mia Amore]

This is a popular questions people asked themselves or their friends. They don’t want to look over eager, “too desperate” and at the same time don’t want the passion die a slow death due to not enough communication. Let me share with you my experience.

When I am in SUCCESS OPS, I call her about 3 times in a space of 2 weeks. All calls are planned and with purpose. It’s a huge success.

However, when we start becoming a couple, for the first 3 months I call her once a month. Months after that, I call her twice a month. Now, I call her a few times a day!

Everyday? Waaa laww… Don’t both of you feel bored? What you are talking about?

Now my friends, let me reveal to you the Cardinal Rules About Calling Your Significant Other.

1.  DON’T CALL IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT

It’s better to hang up than to be silly on the phone. It will make your partner bored and she will create a perception that you are a boring person! I know a friend of mine who stay on the line just to say “Oh” “Ah” “Apa-apa je lah” (whatever), “Jangan lah letak” “tak tau”. (This is not romantic or active listening ok, this is lame!). Kalau girlfriend dia ada idea nak cakap apa dan tengah becok bercerita tak apa, ini dua-dua pun blurr. Takde topik. There is a proper way to listen you your girlfriend to show that you care. But not by becoming boring. Jangan paksa diri berbual jika tiada topik.

2. YOUR CALL DON’T HAVE TO BE LONG

Dulu I call Ms. H only a few times a month sebab setiap kali call biasanya dalam sejam macam tu. Topik perbualan pun panjang-panjang. Tapi I tak berapa ingat sejak bila I mula call Ms. H dengan kerap. Rasanya after dah lebih kurang setahun kitorang couple kot.

I will call her a few times a day just to check on her, tanya dah makan ke belum, saje-saje without reason, saja nak dengar suara dan juga sebab nak kacau dia tengah tidur. All this short call biasanya kurang 5 minit tetapi kalau kitorang berborak panjang dan bergosip kadang-kadang sampai sejam dua.

Tajuk berborak perlbagai, I suka cerita-ceriti pasal kawan-kawan, kenangan silam, interior decor dan gosip2 semasa. A research done overseas found out that couple who gossips lebih mesra. So, do gossip with your significant other although you think it’s a waste of time.

3 NEVER TALK ABOUT ACADEMICS/EXAM RESULTS UNLESS YOU KNOW HIM/HER WELL ALREADY

This is a mistake geeks and nerdies always made that make their couple found them boring. And yes, I read it from a book and I tend to agree with it. I also made the same mistake (before I met Ms. H luckily). When I have ni ideas untuk cakap apa, I will ask the other person how is her studies.

Observe this, usually you will talk about academics when you have no idea what to talk about? True or not?

If true, see. I told you so. If not, GET A LIVE DUDE. You have the symptoms of a sure loser.

Talk about politics, artist, sports, flowers or anything. But never talk about academics! (unless you have been couple for sometimes)

Love,

Mr. S

Today is a special day, I wont talk about love today.

I gonna write a review for Exabytes new web site design. Well, maybe some of you know that I have a few other blogs that receive higher traffic and more suited to this review, but I have my own reason. As a published writer about Internet Business, I think I have some authority to comment (they asked for it anyway!).

Overall, this is a nice design, BUT!

Exabytes New Website Design Review

What Exabytes Do Right With Their New Website Design

1. All elements on their website is divided to “chunks” that are easy on the eyes.
2. Important product showcase links are located at the top area of the website. So users don’t have to scroll down to view Exabytes offering.
3. Express Options allow newbies to quickly find a suitable package without going through all the jargons.
4. Logos of payment processor and notable clients are clearly displayed. Research has indicated that well known logos do add to website credibility and boost sales.
5. The footer links is very good for SEO. It allows search bots to crawl inner web pages.

What ExaBytes Can Correct (or Add) for Maximum impact to the New Site Design

1. Honestly, I am quite disappointed with the overall design of Exabytes new website. It’s nice undeniably but it’s TOO REGULAR for an established hosting company. It didn’t look much different compared to smaller hosting companies. As #1 host in Malaysia, I expect to see a design that stand out. Something unique to Exabytes personality.
2. The website has “enough” text link, but lacking in texts. This is important for natural on-site SEO purpose. I am aware that Exabytes has a proactive marketing policy and utilize Adwords to the max, but it wont hurt to add more text at the front page. Some welcoming remarks from the CEO maybe? Some guide etc.
3. The dropdown menu links are a poor choice. First, it’s not search engine indexable and second it obtructs the view and navigations. When scrolling the menus keep dropping down. It make it almost impossible to click on the “Hot News” link. (same problem with Paypal login form)
4. A local model please for the Xtudent Package promo. It’s hard for the users to relate. A “Malaysian” look will emphasis on Exabytes position as #1 in Malaysia and not just a me-too international hosting company.
5. A phone number or support model at a prominent place (top corner) will SURELY improve conversion rate.

Love,

Mr S.

p/s: In my first book I recommend another hosting company, maybe for my next book I can contact Exabytes and arrange something with them. They are definitely the best in Malaysia.

Patience is virtue.

Patience will make you go place. But never ever use patience as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone. (we will dwell on that in other post)

I love Ms H. I like the way she laugh. I like the way she marah-marah. I like the way she menyampah. I like her excitedness. I like to listen intently to the “sofea in her”. The glint in her eyes and the cuteness in her voice make me smile.  :)

Thank you sayang. These past few days I am really grateful for the decision I made more than 3 years ago. I think I am the luckiest man alive.

After a month of patience after that unfortunate “Kemeja Pink Belang” accident, It’s really worth a wait.

I promise I will never wear a kemeja and slack again for dating!

Love,

Mr. S

I received a few emails already asking, “Where’s the story dude?”

Yeah, it seems we got a little bit off track yesterday. However, I don’t know that you are THAT interested with my love story anyway.

For your information, this “My Love Story” as what I called it is a true story, that I will tell chronologically. It’s based on my diary entries as it happened a few years ago. So, you will know what I feel, what make I feel that way, what I do and the result of the action I take.

Let’s Girls Come to Me

After completing high school, I have this inferiority complex in love. And, I am too stubborn to do something about it. I feel I am not good enough to make girls attracted to me. Worst, I make a stupid declaration that I hold on dearly.

I wont approcah girls. Let the girls who can accept me as who I am and what I am approach me first.

I have a lot and I really mean a lot of friends who tell me this will never happened (although they themselves are not that successful with women). But I refuse to listen. Although deep inside me I longed to love and be loved, but I am too afraid of rejection to take the first step.

Plus, there are lot of [groupies] who preach this jodoh concept. If you are fated to be with her/him, you will. 

These are days of terrible, lonely days and nights for me.

For you loners out there, this is the same feeling that I feel. Just like you. Just I think it’s not appropriate to share here. There is nothing to learn from my loneliness. Let’s focus on the meaty stuff.

Lesson Learnt: Don’t be stupid like me. Admitting that you have a problem is the first step to get rid of the problem.

Then, something struck me while surfing Friendster (on one of my friend’s page). I see their happy faces, how they are with girls that they want, and how lonely am I. What a sore loser. While they got what they want, I can only see.

Suddenly, it was enlightened upon me. Stop accepting life like this!

God has repeatedly gives you chances, but we refuse to see it. (remember the guys and the boat and the chopper in a flooded area story?) So, I resolve to myself to do something about it. To take my chance.

This is what the entry in my diary looks like:

(18/2/2005)

Title: You Know What I Missed Most?

In a rare event tonight, I spend my time surfing Friendster. At first, without purpose, but when I end up on one of my friend’s page, I was freezed. My heart beat faster and slower at the same time (quote taken from Hot Chick movie). Then only I realised, what I missed most in my life. You know what it is?

Chance.

Yes, I miss my chance and chances. True like what a lot of people say, at least later on, I can say, I tried, and nothing will be ruined, except my ego. Well, sound easy, but in the game of life… No, actually life is cruel! direct to the point, that’s it. We mourned on our missed chance, but we , including me take just for granted the abundance chances in front of us.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. whatever… Life is one unfathomable science.

Right now, I have one chance. And I’m using it. I hope this time, I will be good.

…

On that fateful day, I conceive my ATTACK OPS which I initially thought will take about 3 months. I will share with you all, exactly what my plan is on the next episode.

Love,

Mr S

p/s: Reading guide: [groupie] group of extremist. Can be different groups, but I hate extremist so much that I don’t bother to differentiate them. Extremist is extremist and I don’t care they are extreme about what.

A lot of my friends are quietly asking themselves, why of all people, Ms H choose me?

Fair question I must say. 

To those who are are not familiar with this epic story let me give you a background. Ms H, is a beautiful young lady who have a lot of admirers. Let say, wherever she goes she can easily be in the top 3. If not the first. I am not saying this because she is my girl, feel free to disagree. Just take that I say it so that this story will be more “dramatic”

While me, Mr S although I can easily give Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise a run of their money in my prime, the problem is I have a loong way to go before being in my prime (waay to go buddy, that’s the spirit!).

And to single, lonely and not so attractive guys out there, listen closely. This story is not just about me and Ms H. But I will pepper in some tidbits and guide that has proven to work for me so that it can work for you also. You can get your dream gurl, if you believe in yourself!

First guys. You and the girl MUST BE ON EQUAL SCALE.

This is a fact. There is no way that a 10 girl will choose a 5 guy. It will never happened in this lifetime.  Live with it . If any “5″ guy say that he get a 10 girl, I pity him and I pity that girl. The relationship will never last long because there is inbalance.

Reading guide:

a 10: Someone who is 10 on a scale of 10 (10/10)
a 5 : Someone who is 5 on a scale of 10 (5/10)

*usually used to describe a girls. eg: “She’s a 10″

And Ms H choose me because I am a 10! (now I see some of you are giggling)

While this is a fact, you must remember also that we are not judged on our looks alone.

For girls, more weightage are given to their looks, but for men, heavier weightage are given to their manliness. (and I don’t mean your lil bro ok)

It’s your charisma, confidence, intelligence, etc.

Girls want a man who not only can protect her, make her feel safe, lead her, be there for her but also to have a little bit of softness in the inside (romantic not jiwang karat. I need to reiterate this again). A lot of guys I saw are wussies. They suck up to girls and unable to stand for themselves. They let girls take control of their life, and as much as girls like to do that, they wont fall head over heels with that type of guy.

Sorry guy if I sound harsh. But, this is true. If you don’t believe me, you can get any dating guide you want from the internet or from the library and read it.

WIth girls you must be soft and firm at the same time. You cannot just act tough all the way and you cannot be wussies all the way also. You must balance. And to know how to balance, you need knowledge.

Second, you MUST HAVE KNOWLEDGE & STRATEGIZE

Now, I must stress this. We are not manipulating girls by strategizing and scheming. Read on to understand the context of what I want to say.

A lot of pity guys that I know are egoistic. That’s why they are so unlucky with women!

They don’t want to read books or learn the proper way to create attraction because they feel only nerds and geeks do that. It’s only for desperados. Haha… wrong there dude!

This nerd get a 10.

And if you are not willing to seek knowledge, to let go of your egos then you are not worthy of a 10 or even 9. Keep scrapping at the bottom of the barrel guys.

I have to admit, there are a lot of nerdies and geekies and desperados who do this stuff (reading dating guide) that are still unsuccessful with women, but that is because of themselves. They did not apply what they learn! But that’s not an excuse that you don’t have to learn.

Let me give you a glimpse on what a good dating guide will do and what it will not;

1. [DO] Good dating guide will show you how to increase your attractiveness
2. [DO] Good dating guide will show you how to increase your confidence
3. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT give you lame or any pickuplines
4. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT teach you how to manipulate girls
5. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT guarantee you success

See how this work? 

You work on yourself.

I will share more tips and a timeline on how I do it in future post. Stay tune, post comment!

Love,

Mr S

She will kill me for this.

But I reckon there will be hundreds of couples out there that I will help by posting this. To the guys, this can be a sure thing to melt your girl heart. And girls, they will thank me for this.

I gave this to Ms H a few months into our relationship.

She don’t say much about it (typical her, but I still love her style about it btw), but her friends just love it!

(oops, now I notice that this image didn’t move. It’s animated GIF actually. If you save it to your PC than maybe you can see the animation)

So guys out there, hope these give you some ideas on ways you can do to make your girls feel happy without being so jiwang-karat. On the technical way on how to come out with this images, I left it to you. You should work for it right, if in trouble, ask Uncle Google. After all, it’s your girl

Love,

Mr. S

Selamat Datang ke Herdawati.com !

This is Herdawati.com second reincarnation. Actually, dulu I dah create Herdawati.com dan my mission is to encourage yang empunya diri start a blog. Unfortunately, either it falls on deaf ears or she is just too technophobe. I think both.

Plus, she don’t like publicity. That’s her style. If she ever know I wrote this blog, I am sure she will be pissed off. Hard time for me.

But that’s superficially. I know deep down in her, she like it! She has this paradox thing in her.

Yeah, she will never admit it, her inner hati batu wont let her.  Definitely she will feel touched, WALAWEI! Not every boyfriend can do this for her girlfriend ok. Setup a blog (paid one, her own domain name some more, nice theme also), only casanova geek like me will do it… :p

So, Why This Blog?

Ok, ok. Enough about her. Actually, I think the name HERDAWATI.COM is waay to precious to give other people. It’s worth it to face her wrath than let this domain name goes to other people. She doesn’t experience it yet. Try registering SABRI.COM, see if you can.

Cannot. My name is so popular, other people take it already. So, while her name is still available, let’s keep it. If she doesn’t want it. I want.

That’s the first reason.

The second reason is, I like to write something about my life. Our life. Ya, I have a popular blog already (800+ readers a day and counting), but I yearn for something personal. Something to share with myself, my friends and all busy bodies out there.

And of course, I wont be posting frequently here, but I promise you each post will be juicy, interesting and worth the wait…

The third reason is, I want to play with this blog. Yeah, normal mortal people like you wont understand how a geek like me think. There are just to many technical variables involved in setting up a simple blog like this. I cannot play much with my main blog (SS.com) because it will affect the readers experience, hence my business bottomline, but at a personal blog like this, heck I can!

1 Ramadhan

What an irony. A lovey dovey blog started on the first of Ramadhan. Actually, this is all accident. I was browsing the internet after sahur waiting for Subuh prayers before start to sleep (yes, I haven’t sleep yet for the night) I come across this beautiful Wordpress theme. A beautiful Theme needs a beautiful name. Hence, my crazy idea of re-incarnating Herdawati.com

And now I am wondering to use English or BM. I am ok with both, but using BM I will sound too geeky, nerdy and jiwang karat (which I am not btw. Herda said I am romantic, not jiwang karat- 2 different thing)

I guess I will write as I feel it. If I thing English is my mood, than English it will be. If it’s BM, then BM.

I think that’s all for now!

Love,

Mr. S