[Mia Amore]

There is a great possibility of you not getting another
chance to go out on another date with a woman after
screwing up your first date with her. Here are some tips
that may help:

1. Take a shower.

Looking fresh and smelling good can help you gain a good
first impression from your dates. This is true especially
if it’s your first time to go out on a date with a woman.

2. Don’t make her wait!

It’s important not to make the girl wait for a very long
time. Making her wait is not a good impression at all. It
might seem that you do not care about her, or you may look
unreliable and arrogant. Just get there earlier than
expected. You might even think of a great entrance for the
girl.

3. Be a gentleman.

Women feel special when they are with a gentleman. Now go
on and open doors for her and let her pass through first.
You pull her chair and go get her along with the people
around you.

4. Listen to what she’s saying.

Avoid talking too much about yourself. Let your date feel
that you are interested to know her. Listen to what she is
saying and maybe you will have an idea what to say next.

5. Offer to pay.

It is appropriate for you as a gentleman to offer to pay.
It may display an act of chivalry! However, other women
would like to pay half of the cost. Do not resist.

6. Drive safely on your way home.

Take her home safely. Avoid drinking too much on your first
date since you don’t want to ask her about driving your car
because you’re too drunk to drive.

Love,

Mr. S

I am not metrosexual.

I don’t know how to dress up, and I stil prefer necktie with stripes pattern when Ms H told me, its years outdated already. And her friend even told her (while shopping for my necktie with her friend) and she nodded in agreement when she hear it;

Kesianlah sape boyfriend pakai tie garis-garis camni (at that time Ms H didn’t know that her bf indeed an ardent fan of tie garis-garis!)

But recently, I tried to dressed up at the critical moment;

• When I need to do presentation (that carry huge marks)
• When I think I have to be at my best charming self (for whatever reason it may be)
• When I need to submit my assignment late :p
• And of course, when I met with Ms H

I found out that I got a much better treatment when I dressed up. Really. Especially from the opposite sex. While, I am not really chick magnet, and I didn’t try to be one. But I think you know, there are times in our life where we need to be at our charming best. And when this moment come, you may want to remember this post. Don’t be afraid to dress up!

My definition of dressing up is (you might laugh at this, but it’s all true)

• Brown beach tshirt (My choice, highly approved by Ms. H)
• Jeans
• 3 shots of Elizabeth Arden 5th Avenue my sister give me (I know its for women, but I like the flowery scent)
• Hair (Gatsby wet look water gloss-soft)

And I feel I can conquer the world in it!

So, dress up!

This is a popular questions people asked themselves or their friends. They don’t want to look over eager, “too desperate” and at the same time don’t want the passion die a slow death due to not enough communication. Let me share with you my experience.

When I am in SUCCESS OPS, I call her about 3 times in a space of 2 weeks. All calls are planned and with purpose. It’s a huge success.

However, when we start becoming a couple, for the first 3 months I call her once a month. Months after that, I call her twice a month. Now, I call her a few times a day!

Everyday? Waaa laww… Don’t both of you feel bored? What you are talking about?

Now my friends, let me reveal to you the Cardinal Rules About Calling Your Significant Other.

1.  DON’T CALL IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT

It’s better to hang up than to be silly on the phone. It will make your partner bored and she will create a perception that you are a boring person! I know a friend of mine who stay on the line just to say “Oh” “Ah” “Apa-apa je lah” (whatever), “Jangan lah letak” “tak tau”. (This is not romantic or active listening ok, this is lame!). Kalau girlfriend dia ada idea nak cakap apa dan tengah becok bercerita tak apa, ini dua-dua pun blurr. Takde topik. There is a proper way to listen you your girlfriend to show that you care. But not by becoming boring. Jangan paksa diri berbual jika tiada topik.

2. YOUR CALL DON’T HAVE TO BE LONG

Dulu I call Ms. H only a few times a month sebab setiap kali call biasanya dalam sejam macam tu. Topik perbualan pun panjang-panjang. Tapi I tak berapa ingat sejak bila I mula call Ms. H dengan kerap. Rasanya after dah lebih kurang setahun kitorang couple kot.

I will call her a few times a day just to check on her, tanya dah makan ke belum, saje-saje without reason, saja nak dengar suara dan juga sebab nak kacau dia tengah tidur. All this short call biasanya kurang 5 minit tetapi kalau kitorang berborak panjang dan bergosip kadang-kadang sampai sejam dua.

Tajuk berborak perlbagai, I suka cerita-ceriti pasal kawan-kawan, kenangan silam, interior decor dan gosip2 semasa. A research done overseas found out that couple who gossips lebih mesra. So, do gossip with your significant other although you think it’s a waste of time.

3 NEVER TALK ABOUT ACADEMICS/EXAM RESULTS UNLESS YOU KNOW HIM/HER WELL ALREADY

This is a mistake geeks and nerdies always made that make their couple found them boring. And yes, I read it from a book and I tend to agree with it. I also made the same mistake (before I met Ms. H luckily). When I have ni ideas untuk cakap apa, I will ask the other person how is her studies.

Observe this, usually you will talk about academics when you have no idea what to talk about? True or not?

If true, see. I told you so. If not, GET A LIVE DUDE. You have the symptoms of a sure loser.

Talk about politics, artist, sports, flowers or anything. But never talk about academics! (unless you have been couple for sometimes)

Love,

Mr. S

A lot of my friends are quietly asking themselves, why of all people, Ms H choose me?

Fair question I must say. 

To those who are are not familiar with this epic story let me give you a background. Ms H, is a beautiful young lady who have a lot of admirers. Let say, wherever she goes she can easily be in the top 3. If not the first. I am not saying this because she is my girl, feel free to disagree. Just take that I say it so that this story will be more “dramatic”

While me, Mr S although I can easily give Brad Pitt and Tom Cruise a run of their money in my prime, the problem is I have a loong way to go before being in my prime (waay to go buddy, that’s the spirit!).

And to single, lonely and not so attractive guys out there, listen closely. This story is not just about me and Ms H. But I will pepper in some tidbits and guide that has proven to work for me so that it can work for you also. You can get your dream gurl, if you believe in yourself!

First guys. You and the girl MUST BE ON EQUAL SCALE.

This is a fact. There is no way that a 10 girl will choose a 5 guy. It will never happened in this lifetime.  Live with it . If any “5″ guy say that he get a 10 girl, I pity him and I pity that girl. The relationship will never last long because there is inbalance.

Reading guide:

a 10: Someone who is 10 on a scale of 10 (10/10)
a 5 : Someone who is 5 on a scale of 10 (5/10)

*usually used to describe a girls. eg: “She’s a 10″

And Ms H choose me because I am a 10! (now I see some of you are giggling)

While this is a fact, you must remember also that we are not judged on our looks alone.

For girls, more weightage are given to their looks, but for men, heavier weightage are given to their manliness. (and I don’t mean your lil bro ok)

It’s your charisma, confidence, intelligence, etc.

Girls want a man who not only can protect her, make her feel safe, lead her, be there for her but also to have a little bit of softness in the inside (romantic not jiwang karat. I need to reiterate this again). A lot of guys I saw are wussies. They suck up to girls and unable to stand for themselves. They let girls take control of their life, and as much as girls like to do that, they wont fall head over heels with that type of guy.

Sorry guy if I sound harsh. But, this is true. If you don’t believe me, you can get any dating guide you want from the internet or from the library and read it.

WIth girls you must be soft and firm at the same time. You cannot just act tough all the way and you cannot be wussies all the way also. You must balance. And to know how to balance, you need knowledge.

Second, you MUST HAVE KNOWLEDGE & STRATEGIZE

Now, I must stress this. We are not manipulating girls by strategizing and scheming. Read on to understand the context of what I want to say.

A lot of pity guys that I know are egoistic. That’s why they are so unlucky with women!

They don’t want to read books or learn the proper way to create attraction because they feel only nerds and geeks do that. It’s only for desperados. Haha… wrong there dude!

This nerd get a 10.

And if you are not willing to seek knowledge, to let go of your egos then you are not worthy of a 10 or even 9. Keep scrapping at the bottom of the barrel guys.

I have to admit, there are a lot of nerdies and geekies and desperados who do this stuff (reading dating guide) that are still unsuccessful with women, but that is because of themselves. They did not apply what they learn! But that’s not an excuse that you don’t have to learn.

Let me give you a glimpse on what a good dating guide will do and what it will not;

1. [DO] Good dating guide will show you how to increase your attractiveness
2. [DO] Good dating guide will show you how to increase your confidence
3. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT give you lame or any pickuplines
4. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT teach you how to manipulate girls
5. [NOT] Good dating guide WILL NOT guarantee you success

See how this work? 

You work on yourself.

I will share more tips and a timeline on how I do it in future post. Stay tune, post comment!

Love,

Mr S