This is a popular questions people asked themselves or their friends. They don’t want to look over eager, “too desperate” and at the same time don’t want the passion die a slow death due to not enough communication. Let me share with you my experience.
When I am in SUCCESS OPS, I call her about 3 times in a space of 2 weeks. All calls are planned and with purpose. It’s a huge success. 
However, when we start becoming a couple, for the first 3 months I call her once a month. Months after that, I call her twice a month. Now, I call her a few times a day!
Everyday? Waaa laww… Don’t both of you feel bored? What you are talking about? 
Now my friends, let me reveal to you the Cardinal Rules About Calling Your Significant Other.
1. DON’T CALL IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT
It’s better to hang up than to be silly on the phone. It will make your partner bored and she will create a perception that you are a boring person! I know a friend of mine who stay on the line just to say “Oh” “Ah” “Apa-apa je lah” (whatever), “Jangan lah letak” “tak tau”. (This is not romantic or active listening ok, this is lame!). Kalau girlfriend dia ada idea nak cakap apa dan tengah becok bercerita tak apa, ini dua-dua pun blurr. Takde topik. There is a proper way to listen you your girlfriend to show that you care. But not by becoming boring. Jangan paksa diri berbual jika tiada topik.
2. YOUR CALL DON’T HAVE TO BE LONG
Dulu I call Ms. H only a few times a month sebab setiap kali call biasanya dalam sejam macam tu. Topik perbualan pun panjang-panjang. Tapi I tak berapa ingat sejak bila I mula call Ms. H dengan kerap. Rasanya after dah lebih kurang setahun kitorang couple kot.
I will call her a few times a day just to check on her, tanya dah makan ke belum, saje-saje without reason, saja nak dengar suara dan juga sebab nak kacau dia tengah tidur. All this short call biasanya kurang 5 minit tetapi kalau kitorang berborak panjang dan bergosip kadang-kadang sampai sejam dua.
Tajuk berborak perlbagai, I suka cerita-ceriti pasal kawan-kawan, kenangan silam, interior decor dan gosip2 semasa. A research done overseas found out that couple who gossips lebih mesra. So, do gossip with your significant other although you think it’s a waste of time.
3 NEVER TALK ABOUT ACADEMICS/EXAM RESULTS UNLESS YOU KNOW HIM/HER WELL ALREADY
This is a mistake geeks and nerdies always made that make their couple found them boring. And yes, I read it from a book and I tend to agree with it. I also made the same mistake (before I met Ms. H luckily). When I have ni ideas untuk cakap apa, I will ask the other person how is her studies.
Observe this, usually you will talk about academics when you have no idea what to talk about? True or not?
If true, see. I told you so. If not, GET A LIVE DUDE. You have the symptoms of a sure loser.
Talk about politics, artist, sports, flowers or anything. But never talk about academics! (unless you have been couple for sometimes)
Love,
Mr. S