[Mia Amore]

If you’re not the one then why does my soul feel glad today?
If you’re not the one then why does my hand fit yours this way?
If you are not mine then why does your heart return my call
If you are not mine would I have the strength to stand at all

I never know what the future brings
But I know you are here with me now
Well make it through
And I hope you are the one I share my life with

I don’t want to run away but I cant take it, I don’t understand
If I’m not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am?
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?

If I don’t need you then why am I crying on my bed?
If I don’t need you then why does your name resound in my head?
If you’re not for me then why does this distance maim my life?
If you’re not for me then why do I dream of you as my wife …… ?

I don’t know why you’re so far away
But I know that this much is true
Well make it through
And I hope you are the one I share my life with
And I wish that you could be the one I die with
And I pray in you’re the one I build my home with
I hope I love you all my life

I don’t want to run away but I cant take it, I don’t understand
If I’m not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?

cause I miss you, body and soul so strong that it takes my breath away
And I breathe you into my heart and pray for the strength to stand today
cause I love you, whether its wrong or right
And though I cant be with you tonight
And know my heart is by your side

I don’t want to run away but I cant take it, I don’t understand
If I’m not made for you then why does my heart tell me that I am
Is there any way that I can stay in your arms?

Love,

Mr. S

Walaupun kita tahu kita tak layak,
Walaupun kita tahu kita tak hebat,

Cubalah! Usahalah!

A few years of glory is waaay better than a lifetime of misery,
Living and later regretting that, kita “mungkin” boleh berjaya jika kita cuba.

Go for that dream jobs,
Go for that dream careers,
Go for that dream girls,
Go for that dream degrees,
Go for that dream travel,
GO FOR THAT SCARY DECISION.

GO!

The worst can happen, we can fail. Even if we fail we can be satisfied and we can say:

“I Have Had My Moment!”

I have no regret cause I already know how it feel, living my own dream.

Don’t be afraid.

Everybody feels a little bit anxious during “Meet the Parents” session. We did not know what to expect and were afraid that if the family don’t really like us.

When I first met Ms. H parents, our relationship is not at it best actually. I went to Ms. H home as a surprise, even Ms. H didn’t know I will come. And I am relieved that her family accept me well. I planned my visit to coincide with lunch and I ate with his father.

The food are simple but tasty, just like what I always have at home. We can feel the mother love in the food. The dishes are a simple “Ayam Masak Merah” (or is it Sambal Ayam?) and taugeh with Ikan Masin. If Ms. H is not there, I will help myself with the 2nd and 3rd servings. :p

During the visit, I brought “Jambu Batu” (Guava) as buah tangan which I bought at Tapah R&R. I planned to buy Jambu Madu, (Ms.H fav) but apparently its not in season yet.

I felt very welcomed and at home there, and if not for Ms. H angry stare, I definitely will stay longer and come more often!

Love,

Mr. S

A lot of people thinks that when that special someone doesn’t love you anymore, you should move on with your life.

I beg to differ.

Yes, if your loved one has did something that offend you and there is no possibility of reconcialiation at all, then you are well advised to move on.

However, if you don’t know what happened and suddenly your relationship is going through storm, you should be man enough to stay the course.

Listen to what other people has to say, but take it with a pinch of salt. Commit to seek the truth.

And never ever punish your loved one for something you yourself does not understand.

Love,

Mr. S

p/s: To understand is easy, just ask your loved one, he or she should be able to explain with no problem if he or she is really sure what he or she wants or feels . But if that doesn’t help or he or she is confused too, you should be stronger and try to save the ship. Even if you are alone (at first).

Dedicated to ALL beautiful people out there, think hard, think thoroughly.

” Many people go from one thing to another searching for happiness…But with each new venture, they find themselves more confused…and less happy untill they discover that what they are searching for is inside themselves…and what will make them happy is sharing their real selves with the one they love…”

Love,

Mr. S

I am not metrosexual.

I don’t know how to dress up, and I stil prefer necktie with stripes pattern when Ms H told me, its years outdated already. And her friend even told her (while shopping for my necktie with her friend) and she nodded in agreement when she hear it;

Kesianlah sape boyfriend pakai tie garis-garis camni (at that time Ms H didn’t know that her bf indeed an ardent fan of tie garis-garis!)

But recently, I tried to dressed up at the critical moment;

• When I need to do presentation (that carry huge marks)
• When I think I have to be at my best charming self (for whatever reason it may be)
• When I need to submit my assignment late :p
• And of course, when I met with Ms H

I found out that I got a much better treatment when I dressed up. Really. Especially from the opposite sex. While, I am not really chick magnet, and I didn’t try to be one. But I think you know, there are times in our life where we need to be at our charming best. And when this moment come, you may want to remember this post. Don’t be afraid to dress up!

My definition of dressing up is (you might laugh at this, but it’s all true)

• Brown beach tshirt (My choice, highly approved by Ms. H)
• Jeans
• 3 shots of Elizabeth Arden 5th Avenue my sister give me (I know its for women, but I like the flowery scent)
• Hair (Gatsby wet look water gloss-soft)

And I feel I can conquer the world in it!

So, dress up!

This is a popular questions people asked themselves or their friends. They don’t want to look over eager, “too desperate” and at the same time don’t want the passion die a slow death due to not enough communication. Let me share with you my experience.

When I am in SUCCESS OPS, I call her about 3 times in a space of 2 weeks. All calls are planned and with purpose. It’s a huge success.

However, when we start becoming a couple, for the first 3 months I call her once a month. Months after that, I call her twice a month. Now, I call her a few times a day!

Everyday? Waaa laww… Don’t both of you feel bored? What you are talking about?

Now my friends, let me reveal to you the Cardinal Rules About Calling Your Significant Other.

1.  DON’T CALL IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT TO TALK ABOUT

It’s better to hang up than to be silly on the phone. It will make your partner bored and she will create a perception that you are a boring person! I know a friend of mine who stay on the line just to say “Oh” “Ah” “Apa-apa je lah” (whatever), “Jangan lah letak” “tak tau”. (This is not romantic or active listening ok, this is lame!). Kalau girlfriend dia ada idea nak cakap apa dan tengah becok bercerita tak apa, ini dua-dua pun blurr. Takde topik. There is a proper way to listen you your girlfriend to show that you care. But not by becoming boring. Jangan paksa diri berbual jika tiada topik.

2. YOUR CALL DON’T HAVE TO BE LONG

Dulu I call Ms. H only a few times a month sebab setiap kali call biasanya dalam sejam macam tu. Topik perbualan pun panjang-panjang. Tapi I tak berapa ingat sejak bila I mula call Ms. H dengan kerap. Rasanya after dah lebih kurang setahun kitorang couple kot.

I will call her a few times a day just to check on her, tanya dah makan ke belum, saje-saje without reason, saja nak dengar suara dan juga sebab nak kacau dia tengah tidur. All this short call biasanya kurang 5 minit tetapi kalau kitorang berborak panjang dan bergosip kadang-kadang sampai sejam dua.

Tajuk berborak perlbagai, I suka cerita-ceriti pasal kawan-kawan, kenangan silam, interior decor dan gosip2 semasa. A research done overseas found out that couple who gossips lebih mesra. So, do gossip with your significant other although you think it’s a waste of time.

3 NEVER TALK ABOUT ACADEMICS/EXAM RESULTS UNLESS YOU KNOW HIM/HER WELL ALREADY

This is a mistake geeks and nerdies always made that make their couple found them boring. And yes, I read it from a book and I tend to agree with it. I also made the same mistake (before I met Ms. H luckily). When I have ni ideas untuk cakap apa, I will ask the other person how is her studies.

Observe this, usually you will talk about academics when you have no idea what to talk about? True or not?

If true, see. I told you so. If not, GET A LIVE DUDE. You have the symptoms of a sure loser.

Talk about politics, artist, sports, flowers or anything. But never talk about academics! (unless you have been couple for sometimes)

Love,

Mr. S

Today is a special day, I wont talk about love today.

I gonna write a review for Exabytes new web site design. Well, maybe some of you know that I have a few other blogs that receive higher traffic and more suited to this review, but I have my own reason. As a published writer about Internet Business, I think I have some authority to comment (they asked for it anyway!).

Overall, this is a nice design, BUT!

Exabytes New Website Design Review

What Exabytes Do Right With Their New Website Design

1. All elements on their website is divided to “chunks” that are easy on the eyes.
2. Important product showcase links are located at the top area of the website. So users don’t have to scroll down to view Exabytes offering.
3. Express Options allow newbies to quickly find a suitable package without going through all the jargons.
4. Logos of payment processor and notable clients are clearly displayed. Research has indicated that well known logos do add to website credibility and boost sales.
5. The footer links is very good for SEO. It allows search bots to crawl inner web pages.

What ExaBytes Can Correct (or Add) for Maximum impact to the New Site Design

1. Honestly, I am quite disappointed with the overall design of Exabytes new website. It’s nice undeniably but it’s TOO REGULAR for an established hosting company. It didn’t look much different compared to smaller hosting companies. As #1 host in Malaysia, I expect to see a design that stand out. Something unique to Exabytes personality.
2. The website has “enough” text link, but lacking in texts. This is important for natural on-site SEO purpose. I am aware that Exabytes has a proactive marketing policy and utilize Adwords to the max, but it wont hurt to add more text at the front page. Some welcoming remarks from the CEO maybe? Some guide etc.
3. The dropdown menu links are a poor choice. First, it’s not search engine indexable and second it obtructs the view and navigations. When scrolling the menus keep dropping down. It make it almost impossible to click on the “Hot News” link. (same problem with Paypal login form)
4. A local model please for the Xtudent Package promo. It’s hard for the users to relate. A “Malaysian” look will emphasis on Exabytes position as #1 in Malaysia and not just a me-too international hosting company.
5. A phone number or support model at a prominent place (top corner) will SURELY improve conversion rate.

Love,

Mr S.

p/s: In my first book I recommend another hosting company, maybe for my next book I can contact Exabytes and arrange something with them. They are definitely the best in Malaysia.

Patience is virtue.

Patience will make you go place. But never ever use patience as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone. (we will dwell on that in other post)

I love Ms H. I like the way she laugh. I like the way she marah-marah. I like the way she menyampah. I like her excitedness. I like to listen intently to the “sofea in her”. The glint in her eyes and the cuteness in her voice make me smile.  :)

Thank you sayang. These past few days I am really grateful for the decision I made more than 3 years ago. I think I am the luckiest man alive.

After a month of patience after that unfortunate “Kemeja Pink Belang” accident, It’s really worth a wait.

I promise I will never wear a kemeja and slack again for dating!

Love,

Mr. S

I received a few emails already asking, “Where’s the story dude?”

Yeah, it seems we got a little bit off track yesterday. However, I don’t know that you are THAT interested with my love story anyway.

For your information, this “My Love Story” as what I called it is a true story, that I will tell chronologically. It’s based on my diary entries as it happened a few years ago. So, you will know what I feel, what make I feel that way, what I do and the result of the action I take.

Let’s Girls Come to Me

After completing high school, I have this inferiority complex in love. And, I am too stubborn to do something about it. I feel I am not good enough to make girls attracted to me. Worst, I make a stupid declaration that I hold on dearly.

I wont approcah girls. Let the girls who can accept me as who I am and what I am approach me first.

I have a lot and I really mean a lot of friends who tell me this will never happened (although they themselves are not that successful with women). But I refuse to listen. Although deep inside me I longed to love and be loved, but I am too afraid of rejection to take the first step.

Plus, there are lot of [groupies] who preach this jodoh concept. If you are fated to be with her/him, you will. 

These are days of terrible, lonely days and nights for me.

For you loners out there, this is the same feeling that I feel. Just like you. Just I think it’s not appropriate to share here. There is nothing to learn from my loneliness. Let’s focus on the meaty stuff.

Lesson Learnt: Don’t be stupid like me. Admitting that you have a problem is the first step to get rid of the problem.

Then, something struck me while surfing Friendster (on one of my friend’s page). I see their happy faces, how they are with girls that they want, and how lonely am I. What a sore loser. While they got what they want, I can only see.

Suddenly, it was enlightened upon me. Stop accepting life like this!

God has repeatedly gives you chances, but we refuse to see it. (remember the guys and the boat and the chopper in a flooded area story?) So, I resolve to myself to do something about it. To take my chance.

This is what the entry in my diary looks like:

(18/2/2005)

Title: You Know What I Missed Most?

In a rare event tonight, I spend my time surfing Friendster. At first, without purpose, but when I end up on one of my friend’s page, I was freezed. My heart beat faster and slower at the same time (quote taken from Hot Chick movie). Then only I realised, what I missed most in my life. You know what it is?

Chance.

Yes, I miss my chance and chances. True like what a lot of people say, at least later on, I can say, I tried, and nothing will be ruined, except my ego. Well, sound easy, but in the game of life… No, actually life is cruel! direct to the point, that’s it. We mourned on our missed chance, but we , including me take just for granted the abundance chances in front of us.

Yeah, yeah, yeah. whatever… Life is one unfathomable science.

Right now, I have one chance. And I’m using it. I hope this time, I will be good.

…

On that fateful day, I conceive my ATTACK OPS which I initially thought will take about 3 months. I will share with you all, exactly what my plan is on the next episode.

Love,

Mr S

p/s: Reading guide: [groupie] group of extremist. Can be different groups, but I hate extremist so much that I don’t bother to differentiate them. Extremist is extremist and I don’t care they are extreme about what.